Love and Logic
by Annie Smith
September 22, 2008
No significant learning occurs without a significant relationship!"
-James Comer-
Would you like to learn more on setting good firm limits?
Would you like for your child/adolescent to respect your authority?
Love and Logic is a helpful tool that may provide the answers your looking for. Love and Logic provides simple and practical techniques to help teachers and parents have less stress and more fun while raising responsible kids. Please find this tip provided by Love and Logic useful, as it provides techniques that you can begin experimenting with immediately. To learn more about the philosophy of Love and Logic please visit their website at www.loveandlogic.com.
Make the Time Fit the
Crime
Eleven-year-old Quigley was incensed. "My teacher’s never fair.
Just because the bus driver got mad at us on the field trip, she’s
not letting me go out to recess for a whole week!"
"Well, you shouldn't have been acting up on the bus. I told you not
to sit with Jake. You know what happens when the two of you get
together. He's a bad influence on you."
"Yeah, but recess doesn't have anything to do with the bus! I could
understand if I was bad on recess, not getting to go to recess. She
doesn't like me. You need to go to school and tell her it's not
fair!"
Quigley has some wisdom here. Kids are more likely to learn from
consequences when they can make a reasonable connection between
their behavior and the punishment. Consequences need to match the
time and place of the misbehavior.
Fortunately, Mom knows that Quigley's having to live with the
unfair punishment is far less damaging than her pleading his case
with the teacher.
"Yes, Quigley. It probably isn't fair. Would you like to hear what
some other kids have tried at times like this?" She then used the
Love and Logic technique, "Guiding Kids to Own and Solve Their Own
Problems."
Mom knew that his dealing with his own problem with her advice
would make him stronger. Her solving it for him would make him
weaker and more dependent.
You can learn about this technique on our audio CD, "Four Steps to
Responsibility," just one of the 6 CDs in The Life Saver Kit. The
Life Saver Kit is a complete collection of great parenting
techniques.
Thanks for reading!
Jim Fay
