Love and Logic
by Annie Smith
February 04, 2008
"No significant learning occurs without a significant relationship!"
-James Comer-
Would you like to learn more on setting good firm limits?
Would you like for your child/adolescent to respect your authority?
Love and Logic is a helpful tool that may provide the answers your looking for. Love and Logic provides simple and practical techniques to help teachers and parents have less stress and more fun while raising responsible kids. Please find this tip provided by Love and Logic useful, as it provides techniques that you can begin experimenting with immediately. To learn more about the philosophy of Love and Logic please visit their website at www.loveandlogic.com.
Arguing
How sad it is that so many young people in our world have come to believe that constant manipulation is the best way to get what you want!
Love and Logic offers a very powerful way of breaking kids of this damaging habit. The first step involves reminding ourselves that it's ok if our kids get upset about a limit we have set. Sometimes we have to allow our kids to be upset in the short term so that they can become responsible and happy in the long term.
The second step requires going "brain dead." The less we think about what an arguing child is saying, the more energy we'll have at the end of the day.
The third step involves calmly repeating the very same "one-liner," regardless of what the child says. Examples include:
- What did I say?
- I love you too much to argue.
- That's a good argument, but your last one was better.
- I argue at 6 a.m. on Saturdays.
- I know.
To learn more about parenting kids who love to argue, read our book, Love and Logic Magic When Kids Leave You Speechless.
Thanks for reading.
Dr. Charles Fay
