Love and Logic

by Annie Smith

April 28, 2008

"No significant learning occurs without a significant relationship!"

-James Comer-

Would you like to learn more on setting good firm limits?

Would you like for your child/adolescent to respect your authority?

Love and Logic is a helpful tool that may provide the answers your looking for. Love and Logic provides simple and practical techniques to help teachers and parents have less stress and more fun while raising responsible kids. Please find this tip provided by Love and Logic useful, as it provides techniques that you can begin experimenting with immediately. To learn more about the philosophy of Love and Logic please visit their website at www.loveandlogic.com.

Raise Great Employees

It's getting harder to find good, responsible employees. While a problem for employers, this provides a great opportunity for parents! If we can teach the following skills and attitudes, we can practically guarantee that our youngsters will become financially secure adults:

The ability to complete tasks without reminders
The desire to be proud of one's work
Knowing how to cooperate and compromise
The self-discipline to complete boring, tedious tasks
Being able to creatively solve new and unique problems
The ability to learn from one's mistakes

The single most important thing we can do to help our kids develop these skills is to expect them to complete chores without reminders and without pay. In our CD, "Didn’t I Tell You to Take Out the Trash?!", we teach the following steps for making this happen:

Instead of saying, "Take out the trash, now!" try giving your child a deadline, "Just have the trash taken out by six o’clock."
This deadline gives you plenty of time to think about what you will do if your child forgets or refuses to do the chore.
Resist the urge to nag and remind.
If your child forgets or refuses to do the chore, do it for them.
With great empathy, provide a consequence. "This is so sad. I did your chores. How are you planning to pay me?"
Your child can pay by doing extra chores, staying home instead of being driven somewhere they want to go, giving you a toy, etc.