Love and Logic
by Annie Smith
September 05, 2008
No significant learning occurs without a significant relationship!"
-James Comer-
Would you like to learn more on setting good firm limits?
Would you like for your child/adolescent to respect your authority?
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My Kids Would Never Allow
That
I last wrote about a mother who went on strike. She was the one who
returned home each day brandishing her book, heading for her room.
She'd read until her kids had the house cleaned up. Only then would
she cook dinner.
The results were so good that she told her friend, Melissa, about
it. "Oh, my," worried Melissa. "My kids would never allow
that!"
"WHAT? Her kids would never allow that," I
thought. Has Melissa relinquished her parent ticket? Has she turned
over family leadership and authority to her kids?
Is it possible that Melissa has bought into the fallacy that a
parent's job is to make sure that kids are constantly happy? If so,
her kids will grow up to be spoiled and entitled people who are
frequently unhappy, believing they are victims whenever they don't
get their way.
Parents who set reasonable limits often experience kids who are
unhappy in the short term. It is natural for kids to be frustrated
when they test limits and don't get their way. But this helps them
turn out to be good people who are happy in the long term.
When parents do the right thing, it often feels wrong in the short
term—especially when their kids throw a fit. But it usually turns
out to be the best thing in the long term.
Thanks for reading!
Jim Fay
Learn more about how to avoid the disaster of entitlement with our
book, "From Innocence to Entitlement."
