Tips for Handling Betrayal
by Annie Smith
October 27, 2008
Tips for
Handling Betrayal
Sometimes friends make mistakes. They may accidentally say things
or do things that hurt each other. Good friends admit their mistake
and apologize then move on. But, what if friends do or say things
purposely to hurt each other. This is called betrayal, and it’s a
break in trust. If a friend betrays you, it’s good to talk.
I have found some helpful tips when resolving betrayal between
friends. In the end, both parties get the opportunity to share
their side of the story and find a solution.
1. Share your side of the story—If your friend hurt you in
some way, communicate this. Let him or her know how you feel and
why. If you did something hurtful to your friend, explain why you
did it.
2. Listen to your friend’s side of the story. Do not get
defensive. If your friend betrayed you, find out why. After you’ve
listened, ask yourself if you feel confident that you’ve heard the
real reasons behind your friends’ actions.
3. Apologize and forgive. This is and essential step for
putting the betrayal behind you.
4. Decide whether you’re still friends. If the friend
betrayed you your relationship my be damaged beyond repair.
Betrayal breaks trust which is the single most important ingredient
for friendship. Whatever you and your friend decide, be honest
about what you are doing and why.
