Love and Logic
by Annie Smith
As the school year approaches to the end, some find continued motivation to work hard difficult. Please take a moment to read this article on grades. If your child did not receive the grades you were hoping for 3rd quarter try some of these techniques. As a social worker, I use several love and logic techniques when working with students. I have found the theory of Love and Logic to be very effective. Good Luck 4th quarter!!!
Because there is so much at stake - and because we often feel like our children's grades reflect on our parental abilities - it's tough to stay calm and collected when our youngsters earn bad ones. Another factor making this subject so emotion-laden is its complexity. I've come to believe that the art and science of motivating children to do well in school is one of the most complicated and challenging known to humankind.
Fortunately, there are a handful of relatively simple and very powerful truths regarding this topic:
- When anger and frustration are present, motivation goes down.
- Experiment with saying, "I love you, and I bet these grades are really disappointing. Let me know how I can help."
- When control battles erupt, learning stops.
- This is why it's so important to say, "I will love you regardless of how happy or sad you make your own life. You need to decide what type of life to make for yourself."
- We can't make another person learn and achieve.
- All we can do is be good role models and provide help when they are interested.
- Positive relationships are highly motivating.
- When kids feel loved, they are always more likely to do well in school.
- Character serves as the foundation for success.
- Without good values and morals, kids will never reach their potential.
